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When They Control You, Control Yourself Even More

Monday, April 07, 2025

TLO Newsletter Blog/Integrity/When They Control You, Control Yourself Even More

Being micromanaged chips away at you.

It’s not just about the tasks — it’s about feeling like your judgment isn’t trusted. Your choices are questioned. Your autonomy is clipped.
And as a USPS leader, you feel it more deeply because you want to take ownership. You’re not afraid of responsibility — you’re hungry for it.

But here's the truth we know at The Lively Office:
Autonomy starts inside.

When you lead with integrity, even in an environment that feels tight, you create internal freedom that no external control can take away. You stay true to your standards, your thinking, and your self-leadership. And over time, your consistency earns trust — or it builds your readiness to step into environments that respect it.

The danger is this:
When you’re micromanaged too long, you risk internalizing it. You start second-guessing your instincts. You hesitate. You shrink your own leadership footprint.

We’ve seen leaders fall into this trap, and we’ve helped them climb out.

Take the story of one USPS leader who worked under constant scrutiny.
Every decision was double-checked. Every move felt monitored. She told us:

“I felt like I had to ask permission to breathe.”

But instead of waiting for permission, she quietly began leading herself.
She set personal standards higher than what was expected, kept meticulous records of her decisions, and sought external resources to sharpen her leadership skills.
Over time, her actions spoke for her. And when new opportunities came, she had the reputation — and self-confidence — to step forward.

You can’t control how others manage you. But you can control how you lead yourself through it.
Let’s get into action.

Now let's take Massive ACTION!

RISE

Own What You Can Control

In a micromanaged environment, it’s tempting to pull back and wait for instructions.
But the leaders who grow are the ones who quietly master their space.

🔹Know your role inside and out.

🔹Become the expert others naturally turn to.

🔹Let your results speak louder than the control around you.

🛠 Action: List three aspects of your role you can fully own today, without waiting for permission.

CONNECT

Build Quiet Influence

Even under a controlling structure, you’re not isolated. Lateral influence is your subtle power move.

🔹 Share insights with peers to strengthen your credibility.

🔹 Offer solutions, not complaints, to build trust sideways.

🔹 Your reputation among peers can shift perceptions above.

🛠 Action: Reach out to one peer leader and offer help or share a useful insight. Build your quiet circle of trust.

DISCOVER

Define Yourself Before Others Do

Micromanagement can make you feel like someone else is writing your leadership story.

Take the pen back.

🔹 Define what kind of leader you want to be.

🔹 Live by your internal compass, not external control.

🔹 Let your actions reflect your identity, not your environment.

🛠 Action: Write one sentence that defines you as a leader. Keep it visible as your daily reminder.

💡 Integrity Is Your Inner Freedom

When your environment feels tight, your integrity is what keeps you free.

Stay true to your standards. Lead yourself with clarity and conviction. Build your internal authority so strong that, whether recognized or not, you know you are leading well.

Autonomy isn’t always given. But it is always claimed.

— KSA Power Tip -

When you write your KSA, remember: your goal is to stand out in the sea of applications.

Don’t settle for the routine. Think about a moment when you solved a problem that wasn’t obvious — a time you saw a challenge, took the lead, and delivered a result others weren’t expecting.

For example:
"Our unit was constantly fielding customer complaints about misdeliveries. I tracked patterns over several weeks, identified common addresses, and worked with our carriers to clarify route instructions. By the end of the month, we reduced misdeliveries by over 40%, and customer calls dropped sharply."

This is the story that catches attention. It’s clear, simple, and shows your thinking, your action, and your impact.

Your KSAs should feel like you’re telling your proudest leadership moments — not just checking boxes.